Miranda Kerr says the key to a happy marriage is making the man feel important

Miranda Kerr marriage comments

Miranda Kerr may dominate as one of the top models in the world. But, when it comes to her marriage, she is more content with taking a backseat.

“What really works for me when I come home, is to relax more into the feminine side,” she said in an interview with Net-a-Porter.

Miranda, who has been married to Orlando Bloom since 2010, claimed her marriage is better because she is willing to hold back.

“If you’re really an alpha female, you don’t allow [your partner] to have the space to feel like the man in the relationship. Maybe I am too traditional, but men feel important when you ask for their help, instead of thinking you can do it all on your own.”

Although Miranda refrained from using the buzzword “submissive,” other celebrity wives have explored the controversial territory. This spring, professional volleyball player Gabrielle Reece authored My Foot is Too Big For the Glass Slipper, a marriage advice book.

“To truly be feminine means being soft, receptive, and — look out, here it comes — submissive,” she wrote.

After being praised by some and chastised by many more, Gabrielle, who has been married to Laird Hamilton for 17 years, clarified her point in a New York Times editorial.

“In discussing what works for me in my home life, I used the word submissive. I did not say, ‘Don’t go out in the world and be a woman who puts herself in a position in which she can thrive and be personally and professionally respected.’ When I used the s-word, I was talking about the way many couples divide labors and roles irrespective of gender, and I was talking about what’s been true for me in my own relationship.”

Miranda and Gabrielle’s relationships reflect the traditional roles of marriage. However, the 2008 National Survey of Married Couples found that wisdom may rightfully be outdated: “Most of the couples (81%) where both spouses perceived the relationship as equalitarian were happily married, while most of the couples (82%) where both spouses perceived their relationship as traditional were mainly unhappy.”

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  • Nathan

    “Most of the couples (81%) where both spouses perceived the relationship
    as equalitarian were happily married, while most of the couples (82%)
    where both spouses perceived their relationship as traditional were mainly unhappy.”

    There’s no possible way that survey is accurate. What did they consider “equalitarian” and what did they consider “traditional” and did they use those words in the survey? There was actually a study in Sweden a few months ago that showed the opposite: women in relationships where they did most of the housework were happier in the relationship than women who split chores evenly with their man.

    • christee

      Maybe b/c they know it’s easier to do it themselves once than twice behind a man? 😉

      I kid, my own fiance would be a great housekeeper, as he’s irritatingly anal about pretty much everything. He’s also lazy and uninterested, so lucky me haha.

    • Sara

      What makes the Sweden study more accurate than this one? Is it because the Sweden survey told you exactly what you want to hear? That women are happier when they’re in the kitchen where they belong? What a bunch of bullshit.

      It’s honestly impossibly to figure out what makes “most women” happy considering that women are not a monolith. Some women will be happier in traditional roles, and some won’t. What a shocker.

  • Insider

    Miranda’s definition of submissive must mean openly screwing every single actor and celebrity who ISN’T her husband while he basically raises their kid alone. I’m sure that makes her husband feel very good about himself.

    • fiona

      No need to bring to bring in those ridiculus blind items into this (non of which have any proof whatsoever)
      or your obvious petty jealousys either.

      • catseyes

        wasn’t there also a blind about orlando aswell ,
        something about him screwing a chubby flight attendant about a year ago?

  • sanoga

    Here’s a crazy concept: do what works for YOU, not what works for someone other couple.

  • savannah

    I think what makes a relationship work is communication, honesty and understanding. My man may be the King of my world, but I’m the Queen of his. I don’t need to play up his masculinity just for our relationship to be better… blah. Ask for help if you need it, not because its going to make your man feel better about himself.

  • SimplyMimi

    Why is it so hard to admit that not everyone is in the same marriage? My husband and I both work and both take care of the house. My friend is a stay at home mom and does EVERYTHING for her husband, including bringing his dinner to him in bed. We don’t judge each other, we understand each other.