MTV appears to have a male/female graphic violence double standard, censoring the now-infamous “Snooki Punch” from the airing of the episode of Jersey Shore, yet they had no problem with Amber violently pushing her fiance Gary into a corner by his throat and then slapping him while screaming the entire time. Could you imagine the outrage if the roles had been reversed – if Gary had choked Amber and violently pushed her into the corner and hit her?!? (We almost get the same effect when Amber grabs him by his D-cup man boobs.)
All of that being said, it is easy to understand Amber’s frustration. Her baby daddy is essentially a lazier, obese version of Jon Gosselin with a lower-paying job. There is rarely a scene when Gary isn’t laying waaaay back in a recliner, playing video games or laying on the bed, and he’s always so maddeningly laid back and mellow at serious times when those qualities are far from a positive thing. “Don’t worry about it. The baby will clean itself.”
Gary seems nice enough, he just needs to man up a little, and I don’t mean in a “slap her back” kind of way! He needs to do what needs doing without burdening Amber with the responsibility of having to make him do it. Of course, I suppose that is what this show is supposed to be about – teenagers being forced to grow up fast. However, domestic violence is still domestic violence, and no one should be able to so easily get away with shoving, choking and slapping their significant other. A toxic, violent household is a toxic, violent household no matter who is doing the screaming, slapping and punching.
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Amber is so selfish all she ever says that she can never do anything cause of Leah The way its sounds to me is that she resents the baby a lot That apartment is so messy too can’t you pick up something sometime dumba$$ way too immature and selfish to have a kid Maci is wonderful mother and doing the right way and putting her son first
Amber is SO immature and MEAN to her boyfriend! I can’t believe she actually has a baby daddy that WANTS to stick around and wants to be with her and she abuses him ( STILL as of 8/2010!) and treats him like her little slave , like he has to put up with her crap just because. When she grows up and watches these episodes with her daughter. I hope she see’s why she was a single sad mom all her life, probably with a trail of broken relationships behind her. I bet Gary gets sick of little miss “ME ME ME” And finds another woman who appreciates a guy who makes an effort like he has for this ungrateful brat. It’s so sad. She put all the effort into losing weight – which is great but nothing inside has gotten any prettier.
Wow, Amber gets worse by the episode! This girl SHOULD NOT be a mother, at least not for a long, long time. Why is everything Gary’s fault? It is not just Gary’s fault that she got pregnant! Last night, she talked about how they are trying to work things. Later on, she said that if she is pregnant again it is all Gary’s fault. Really? She is dumb ass who did not learn her lesson the first time! It takes 2 to get pregnant and she needs to be taking precautions to make sure that it doesn’t happen again anytime soon. That dumb a$$ needed to stay in school…she keeps putting off her GED. She is LAZY! I really look forward to an episode in which Gary leaves her for good and starts dating someone else!
Anybody knows what cell phone model is using amber when she is laid down on the bed calling gary? all help is really appreciated
I would get upset if someone I loved was dying and my b/f disrespected them. I probably would have slapped him, I dont think I would have choked him though, you dont talk to someone whos dying like that. esp. if your g/f loves that person alot.
I think amber is a total b*tch and beleive even though she had a kid she shouldnt be so f***ing selfish
Amber sucks. She doesn’t deserve Gary. Why does he keep trying to help her. I would have had a restraining order on her as soon as she opened her mouth the first time! This girl is TERRIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!! Gary, you can find a whole lot cooler girl than Amber! She hates her life and she takes it out on Gary. Gary, this girl has a dark cloud hanging over her head… LEAVE her!!!!!
Gary is lazy? He works a low end job that more than likely drains him. He loves that kid. Amber is the f***ing lazy b**ch studying for the “mighty GED.” You want a new car, b**ch? Work for it your f***ing self, we’ve got bills to pay.
I agree with AJ 100%, this is just a woman’s world now. I can’t even stand dating women anymore. It seems no matter what age they are, emotion rules over logic. I’m not going to go homosexual, but the hand is better than being yelled at when you work hard, reason, and even comfort. It’s just not enough, it never is. You can comfort, spend time, cuddle, and listen sincerely to a woman and they will, a majority of the time, use you as a scapegoat or as a crutch. Give me my independence and space, but bail me out when I need it. Yeah, that’s really awesome.
I a 25 yr old male and as a male I don’t believe this is a equal world no more. This use to be a mans world, then women started fighting for their rights, which I have no problem with at all. But then women took it further and then all of a sudden this is a womans world now. Look at the world and it’s bad economy and you will see that majority of people who lost their job are men. Offices which hire more women than men right now are full with women doing what some say men cannot do because it better suits us to be working and lifting up heavy things, like in factories, warehouses, and construction. But you rarely see women doing jobs like that. A man can’t do office work? Or be a assistant because it’s not a norm. My girlfriend is a nursing assistant, and Gary from teen mom is one too but anything lower than head dog like a doctor isn’t suited for a man.
This man Gary for some reason loves Amber fat a$$. Why???? She complains about things that are part of life. Wow your car breaks down and you want the income to give up their transportation to work (which you don’t have) because you think you can’t catch a bus. Since she wants to act immature I am too. B**ch get your fat a$$ on a bus or walk. My girl complained about not having a car and this and that. She wanted to take me driving her everywhere for granted, so I let her see what life is like without me taking her everywhere and she quickly realized how lucky she has it. I helped her get her car and she now knows not to take things for granted. Gary is just soft and don’t want to be a real man and put her in her place. Amber if you was my girl I would teach a quick hot lesson. My daughter and I will have a warm place, food, clothes, and etc. You wouldn’t be sleeping, eating, at our place. Your a$$ would be on the street until you realize how good you have it. And I’m not talkin s**t, I did it to my girl. She complained about how she don’t get this and that. For a whole month I didn’t do anything for her and barely talked to her. She then came to me and realized she had something but didn’t realize it until she didn’t have it no more. I love my girl for the last 5 1/2 yrs and she started complaining how she hated that I wasn’t all lovely dovely, all the time. And until I almost died in a motorcycle accident, she realized all the lessons I was trying to teach her is things can always be worst. And something is better than nothing. Now she takes care of the things I use to and see without my help things can get worst. Almost losing her love and the father of her daughter she don’t complain about things no more.
Amber this is life. Things can be worst than this. Gary loves you and think if you ruin things with him and get with someone else and this guy beats on your a$$ like a drum. You then would miss Gary. And plus if Gary moves on and find someone who he loves and is his type. You then will be regretting it by being all alone. But you are to immature to get it. If you don’t want Gary no more just let him know and go. But you can’t let go of the one who takes care of you without being able to stand up first. So it seems like your using him to get on your feet. You want to get away from probably the only guy who wants to deal with your whinning. For what? She talks about he arguing with you but it’s you who is always arguing with him. Last night he was trying to tell you he loves you and you start saying he’s trying to start a fight. Huh???? I heard him say that ” I love you Amber”. And then he gets cut off. Gary isn’t perfect but no one is. Especially Amber thinking and blaming everything on Gary. I hope Amber looks at the show and realize it’s her fighting about things that are normal in a relationship. One always thinks the other one is lazy or not helping, when they can do more. One is always assuming that they are stressed when there really is no stress. Imagine having to work on a broken leg and every step hurts like hell in order to help take care of your child. And plus help take care of your love one. And knowing that you almost died and left them without help. Your child having to see her dad , who she thinks is superman laid up in hospital bed with scares, broke leg, and dislocated shoulder. Learning how to walk again, and really cannot deal with working but having too in order to protect your child and girl from the harsh wolds. And not some dumb a$$, I can’t get to study, and work done. You was liking the sex and this is the price.
And what I mean about putting Amber fat a$$ in her place is not to hit her or abuse her in any kind of way. Itsnot ok for a man to put his hands on a female even if she a brat. Nor am I saying that she is lower than him. What I mean is that she thinks that she is bigger than life. That what she says goes cause she is the boss. Raising a child and a relationship involves team work. And Amber is not a team player, she thinks she is the star player but get right. I hope he gets it and leaves her because this girl is a lost clause.
I know that I am replying to an old post but the reason women are taking so many “men’s” jobs is because employers pay them 67 cents per man’s $1.00 wage. So the employers are buying cheaper labor- blame the corporations, not the women.
Gary is no different than he ever was, it’s Amber whos gone all dog-day-afternoon because she has a baby she has to take care of. She’s no neater than him in the house, and always shrieking for “Garrrr-rey” to do something she should be doing. or could be doing. She knew what he was when they dated- a lovable schlub who’s quite content with whatever life throws at him. She picked him, and now she’s rethinking maybe she made a bad choice. She even got annoyed that Gary’s mom got a job because now she babysit!!! Hello, I’m the world, and I DON’T revolve around you!!!! Gary should have dumped her whiny, bratty, spoiled a$$ as soon as she smacked him!!! He is too good for her!!!!!
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Haven’t watched this show that much, but from what I can see Amber calling someone gainfully employed lazy is the commode blaming the toilet bowl for rampant germs, mildew, and mold.
This heifer is worth less than worthless. She was lying on her fat a$$ with the cell phone (wonder who pays for that) when he came over to pick her up. She’s as fat as he is. How is he the only one lazy? Yes he should do work around the house and help her fix her car. But that heifer should have a job so she can fix her own d*mn car.
And I don’t give a sh*t about what he said to her father as long as he said it on the way out of the man’s house. None of that gives her the right to put her hands on him. It’s not the same as a 200 pound drunk punching out a girl half his size, but it’s still intolerable. And one of the ONLY crimes women commit on a par with men IS assaulting their significant other. Plenty of women every single day drive over their husbands with the car with his daughter in the passenger’s seat screaming or murder their lover with his own d*mn crescent wrench or murder suicide her lover for daring to break up with her. And what did we hear all too much of after Steve McNair was killed by his mistress? “Maybe this will be a lesson to other men on the dangers of cheating.” GTFO.
Instead of sympathy and a call to action for violence against men we get retarded people who say garbage like “When women are making dollar for dollar what men are and have about the same height and weight, and its otherwise a level playing field, I’ll be more inclined to condemn evenly.” WTF does that have to do with it? Such people need to quit huffing the Oust!
Women who with the same education, experience at the same occupation, and who take no time off work to have children DO make the same as what similar men make. It is the greatest story ever sold that women are making less for the exact same work. That’s flat out bullsh*t. The usual brainless quote is something like 75 cents on the dollar. If that were even remotely true then the dumb a$$ that said this should start a company doing ANYTHING, hire only qualified women (save for a few token men to assuage any reverse discrimination claims), pay them 90% of what men in that field are making thus doing them a fcking favor of 20 cents more on the dollar, and ABSOLUTELY CRUSH their competition who’s stupidly paying all of these men a dollar for what could be accomplished at 75 to 90 cents.
Unless you were raped, nobody’s forcing you to have children. Nobody’s pulling a gun on you to get you to take off time from work to take care of the children you chose to have. Nobody’s forcing you to deliberately choose the kind of men who focus on work and paying bills, but refuse to help with the children. My father didn’t give a f*ck if it was a dish to be washed he washed it. If there was a baby to be changed he changed it. He built two houses for us nailing every nail from scratch. He didn’t look around to ask where my mother was, all the while working no less than 12 hours a day, 6-7 days a week for 40 fcking years to provide a living for his family.
Same with her, as a seamstress she made almost as much as he did. If there was a bill to be payed SHE payed it. If the trash needed taking out she took it out. Neither of them ever looked to anybody else and both were always saying what can I do to help the family.
Anybody who can’t wash a dish, change a diaper, or win some bread and pay a bill with it is full of sh*t IMO whatever they have between their legs.
No, it’s not the same.It’s easier and more comfortable to oversimplify by making all incidents of violence the same, but we’ve got a culture that is really only about ten or 15 years into deciding that it’s not okay to beat your wife and kids, and after hundreds of years of expecting–yes, EXPECTING–an self-respecting woman to slap some face to defend her honor or that of her loved ones, that’s gonna take some time. We’re on our way, and that’s a good thing. But don’t equate the slap by Amber (who can barely reach up to poor Gary’s face), which was done in principled defense of her dad, to the punch-in-the-face smackdown on Snookie, who is 5-foot-minus, by some drunk-ass douchebag more than a foot taller and a hundred pounds heavier, after she called him out for stealing drinks. No comparison. And of course all violence is bad. So is all poverty. When women are making dollar for dollar what men are and have about the same height and weight, and its otherwise a level playing field, I’ll be more inclined to condemn evenly. When one party is more helpless and the other is more empowered, we see greater injustice when the former is beaten by the latter. That’s why police brutality is so offensive. And when you get right down to it, it’s probably why we so enjoy boxing. It’s a fair fight, presumably, and may the best man win. Not the one with the biggest gun against someone essentially defenseless.
Naw. It’s not okay, but it’s not the same. And every time I hear Amber talk to Gary I want to drag her out behind the woodshed and take away her Cheetos. What an mean, disrespectful harpy. She is trying hard to better herself, but that child is gonna end up fat, angry and ALONE, cuz he might be lazy, but Gary is sweet and loving and TOLERANT. I finally found one of those, and O-M-G, there is no strength like kindness. Hang in there, kids.
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I believe that when a female has a child, regardless of what the “MAN” does..she should have herself TOGETHER! Amber needs to get up off her whinney A** and start getting things done! Having a baby does not mean “The end of the world” If anything that should make her work ten times harder for her child! Gary is the father, but if he is not pulling his weight she should have a side plan…get a job, go to school and find some daycare! Women are making it everyday in worse situations! There are mothers getting the job done without a car (Taking the bus, catching rides with friends, getting taxi’s) come on now girl! Get it together! To me, Gary is the sole provder in this case and since she has nothing, she should consider it a blessing that he is paying/doing anything for her A**! She has no right to put her hands on him like that! I wanted to knock her out! If she does not like it, then she should LEAVE! I feel sorriest for Leah! Poor thing!
I agree with Beth, Shaggy, and Joe! Domestic violence isn’t just a one-way street. Gary has a lot of patience to put up with her violent, sobbing outbursts. And Gary might have a “lower-paying” job but he has one–a certified nursing assistant. I wouldn’t call that a go-nowhere job. The only thing that is “go-nowhere” in Gary’s life is Amber. There is no excuse for domestic violence, frustration or not.
I disagree with AE. It is the same. My husband is a police officer and most of the domestic disturbances he goes to it is the females being violent with the male. Abuse is abuse, this episode with them infuriated me. Someone needs to remove that child from this house. Most of the time she is placed in a crib or playpen with a bottle, and hardly has clothes on I am a mother myself and yes when it is hot you dont want to dress this child to warm, but still. This is not a safe or healthy situation for this child at all and it concerns me. Did anyone else notice an episode a few weeks ago when they were putting Leah to bed and Gary told Amber that she needed to be changed and she said she would do it at midnight. Excuse me but that is wrong and you think you are going to want to in the middle of the night. I just want to take this child and hug I feel so sorry for her.
Yeah, Gary works and pays for all of the bills. Amber complains about her car not working and blames Gary for everything. You’re right, he’s the one who is lazy and needs to “man up”.
This b*tch is f***ing crazy. This is ridiculous, and if I were her man, I would have knocked the sh*t out of her. If she is man enough to lay her hands on me like that, she is man enough to get hit like a man. Domestic violence is domestic violence, regardless of who is committing it. Similarly, self-defense is the same regardless of who is defending themselves from whom. This b*tch needs help. For real. Chris Brown needs to handle this b*tch.
I don’t think this episode should have even aired. After seeing the language and violence used in front of Leah, I feel like Child Protective Services should do a thorough investigation to see if they have a suitable housing environment for Leah.
I love it haha violence is wrong but at least 2 of you said you’d knock amber out… She’s wrong and he’s dumb for getting her pregnant and not knowing her well enough to know she’s an illogical person.. Who cares about their lives really though.. Praise the good ones like maci and catelynn and hope the sh*tty ones like farrah and amber’s kids make it to adulthood alive and good people.