‘Princeton Mom,’ who advises women to get their MRS degree, lands book deal

Princeton Mom "Smarten Up" Book Susan A. Patton

Susan A. Patton, also known as “Princeton Mom,” encountered a bit of controversy earlier this spring when she submitted a letter to her alma mater advising its current undergraduate females to “find a husband on campus” before graduating.

But, if you thought her sage wisdom was truly as simple as getting married while you’re still a viable child-bearer, then you are totally wrong… At least, that’s what editors from the Simon & Schuster publishing company indicated when they gave the anti-feminist her own book deal.

“In this ‘politically correct’ world where the topics of marriage and motherhood for educated girls are taboo, somebody has to talk honestly with young women about finding husbands, getting married and having babies,” Patton said in a statement released by her publisher. “That might as well be me!”

Speaking to The Daily Princetonian, Patton said she plans for the book to include sections for women in the college, post-graduate and mature stages of life.

“The message is very consistent,” Patton said. “I want young people — especially young women — to be ever present of the necessity to pay as much attention to and focus on their personal happiness as they are planning for their professional success. They need to keep in mind that their window of opportunity to bear their own children is limited and that they will never have a better concentration of extraordinary men to choose from than they do when they’re at college.”

As she will be drawing from her original letter to the editor of The Daily Princetonian, eager readers can expect to learn more about finding the right man to marry and snagging him before his attentions shift elsewhere. There will surely also be anecdotes from Patton’s own life, including the mess she got into when she didn’t marry a Princeton man. (She recently divorced the man who “had no respect” for the Princeton traditions.)

Princeton Mom MRS Degree Book

“She will confront realities including the limited number of years women can bear children and how the current hook-up culture diminishes women’s self-esteem,” the publishing company said in a press release, adding that Patton is willing to speak the truths that many women don’t want to hear.

Just as when The Daily Princetonian published Patton’s column last March, the backlash to news of her book deal has been pretty intense from both men and women.

“I don’t judge women who take the June Cleaver route,” writes Anna Breslaw in a blog for Cosmopolitian. “So why am I being judged by people like Susan A. Patton for choosing to be a so-called ‘spinster?'”

On her original blog, a male commentator wrote: “I would never marry someone as shallow and one-dimensional as Susan Patton. It’s pretty amazing that she attended Princeton during the women’s liberation movement. Her personal views would set that movement back decades. No wonder Princeton students don’t want career advice from her. She’s a dinosaur.”

Personally, I would like to point out that having a fulfilling personal life and successful career are not mutually exclusive. As someone who got married in college and has gone on to the work I always wanted, I know life’s better when you don’t spend so much energy worrying about societal timelines.

In case you’re still interested in a some advice that’s best left in the 1950s, look for “SMARTEN UP! Words of Wisdom from the Princeton Mom” next spring.

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  • LexiconD1

    Wow, I so can’t agree with the women. I just can’t. You don’t need a ‘man or children’ to be happy in life, unless that’s what you want. I am not married, by choice (been asked three times), and have one child (when I was almost 30), again by choice…I’m pretty happy with my home life and career. It leaves me financially independent, and I get to date or spend time in a relationship without being tied down.

    For ‘me’, I have the best of both worlds and I love it.
    I think happiness is what YOU make of it, not what other people tell you it is.

    But that’s just my opinion…

    • Kelly

      100% agree.

  • Karina

    What a disgusting anti-feminist.

  • DeeDeDee

    I feel like to an extent, I can agree with what she’s saying. I know that you definitely don’t NEED a man or children to be happy with your life…. but IF you do want to have the career and a family to come home to, it’s not going to wait until you’re in your 50s and you’re sitting at home wishing you had focused on family AS WELL AS your career. And let’s be honest, she’s right. College is a great place to meet somebody with the same aspirations, motivations and intelligence as yourself. Might as well take advantage of it. But let’s not pretend that a baby and a family is what MAKES a female.

  • Sweet Venom

    Dear lord, I sincerely hope young women out there do not take what she is saying to heart. You don’t need a man or a child to be happy! Sure they can be a joy to some, but if you don’t want that particular lifestyle than you’re not missing out.

    But of course don’t bother to actually learn anything in school kids! Just scope out a fancy new husband and your days of thinking are over!

    • LexiconD1

      Until middle age sets in and divorce is emanate.

  • Amanda

    Her ideas may resonate with some, but it ignores the fact that there are more options than ever before for women to create both the family and work life that suits them. You don’t have to get married or have kids in your 20’s. I froze my eggs at 32, decided to become a single mom at 34, gave birth to one of my frozen eggs at 35 (didn’t have to use the frozen egg but really curious to see if that process worked!), got married at 37, gave birth again at 38 (this time baby was made at home), and all is well.

    I’ve also seen many of my married-in-their-20’s friends go thru divorce in their 30’s and 40’s. There are no guarantees.

    Geez, I’m too old to be reading Starcasm.

  • Mike

    her problem is that she is obsessed with ivy league unis and very elitist about it. guess what the rest of the world doesnt have that system and they make incredible inventions (internet, book printing, cars, rockets, computers… all non american inventions)

    she does have a point though which i see often that relationships are broken up because “career” comes first but that not even when those relationships are in trouble, just as a “precaution”.

    the society basically switched from “women must stay at home” to “women must have the biggest career imaginable”.

    so her basic point is good, i agree with it. if you find a good boy or girl at uni dont give them up for the you career, put in a lot of work to make it work. trust me success is meaningless without someone to share your life with.

    and as long as women refuse to date down a guy your level is the only way to go and uni would be the best place to catch one.

  • Jennifer

    Ahem. Having a “fulfilling personal life” does not need to include a man and babies. I would never look down on someone who chose that route so quit assuming that my personal life is meaningless because I choose a different path.

    • Anna


  • Lindzy22b

    I’m 26 and in no rush to marry. Looking back to my college years I couldn’t imagine even considering marriage but I think to a certain screen she is right about never having a better concentration of men. Make strong connections with men there and years later when you are ready those connections could seriously come in handy. Especially if you become disheartened by th Online dating scene.