The controversy surrounding 90 Day Fiance couple Aleksandra and Josh Strobel’s daughter Kaya is a hot topic once again after TLC posted an update on the couple as part of their 90 Day Fiance: What Now? digital series. In case you missed it, the controversy stems from photos of Kaya that have been posted online in which it appears as though she has the facial features and hair of a child that is biracial. Aleksandra got so fed up with the questions about Kaya’s paternity that she announced she was stepping away from Instagram back in June.
While Aleksandra’s Instagram account has remained dormant, the same cannot be said for her Facebook account. Last week, Aleksandra shared a post commemorating three years of friendship with her dance instructor Hernury, who happens to be black. As you might imagine, especially given the renewed interest after the What Now? episode, the post generated numerous comments speculating whether or not Hernury might be the father. Surprisingly, Aleksandra decided to respond to a number of the comments and accusations.
In her responses, Aleksandra continually laughs off the suggestion that Josh isn’t the father, but she never really tries to explain why Kaya has features so distinctively different from his. I begrudgingly have to agree with some of the points made by one of the commenters who explained why people don’t seem willing to let the issue go:
People have been watching your story with Josh. We watched you get married on TV. You and Josh announce your pregnancy on the reunion show. Now you guys show up with a black or biracial baby and hide the child’s face. So you expect everyone to sit back and not have any questions? Maybe you and Josh planned things this way and if so that’s fine. But as you two are telling your love story on national television and suddenly you have a baby that obviously isn’t Josh’s… it sort of looks like you had an affair. Or maybe you guys chose to adopt after a failed pregnancy, or you two chose to use a sperm donor… If the truth is too private then it’s time to turn off the cameras. Otherwise you are naturally going to have thousands of people scratching their heads wondering how you ended up with a biracial baby (who is beautiful btw). If you or others here don’t get that.. Sorry! We can’t just tune in each week and pretend not to notice. And I think everyone here, including you, gets that. That’s the only reason why any of us are here reading these threads on your Facebook page.
Aleksandra previously stated that her father is from Cuba and that Kaya got a lot of her features from him. The claim confused many fans because we met Aleksandra’s father Vlad on the show, and he is anything but dark skinned:
As it turns out, Vlad (Vladimir) is actually Aleksandra’s stepfather, and her biological father is a man named Rodriguez. Aleksandra has shared several photos with Rodriguez on Facebook and Instagram and often calls him dad or papa. Here are two photos of dad and daughter together:
Clearly, if that is Aleksandra’s father, then Kaya’s features seem a lot more possible with Josh as her dad. But, like the commenter stated above, Aleksandra doesn’t seem to want to put the rumors to rest by offering this up as an explanation. In her defense, I did some looking back, and she has talked about the confusion over her father in the comments on previous posts. I can understand why she wouldn’t want to keep explaining the same thing over and over again, but it sure seems like that would be a better option than being dismissive and vague. Annnnnywaaays….
I will step aside now and let Aleksandra speak for herself. Here are most of the interactions she had with commenters on Facebook about the question of her daughter Kaya’s paternity. I will remind you that they are in response to a photo of her and her dance coach Hernury, who is a black male.
COMMENTER: lol, we found the father of the baby.
COMMENTER: That’s hilarious I thought the same thing. Those Mormons sure can put up with a lot saying a mixed baby is not half black and all white is a pretty hard pill to swallow but I guess if you can be Mormon you can believe anything.
COMMENTER: Right on, man! if you can’t tell that your kid isn’t half black then you got a problem.
ALEKSANDRA: I feel bad for your spouses guys. If you cheated on them, it doesn’t mean others do.
COMMENTER: Aleksandra Iarovikova I’m confused. so are you saying that Hernury is the father??? It’s perfectly fine with us that Josh isn’t the father. Just embrace and accept it. No one’s here to judge.
ALEKSANDRA: Are you kidding or are you serious? Man he was one of my dance teachers? What the heck?
COMMENTER: I just don’t get the reason for the lie. Nobody in america cares one way or the other and screw Russia if they can’t see past it. But the lie is what matters here not really anything but the lie.
COMMENTER: Maybe, but it’s on how you imply it? We don’t care. I would rather tell the truth than live a lie. No pun intended on you.
ALEKSANDRA: It’s your right to not believe.
COMMENTER: It’s going to be so hard for your daughter growing up. But someday when she is older our if this is just a lie only to the public she will figure it out. Heck she will figure it out by the 2 day of school when some kid starts teasing her as kids always do.
ALEKSANDRA: I’d think about it if I had a kid from someone else )
COMMENTER: Aleksandra Iarovikova I agree, but don’t get caught into this reality tv crap like Maury etc… and with DNA tests.
COMMENTER: O well just another broken child in this world from day one because of bad parenting.
COMMENTER: Maybe Mohamed Jbali could give some insight on this too.
ALEKSANDRA: Who is Maury and Mohamed Jbali?
ALEKSANDRA: So you call me a bad parent?
COMMENTER: No, I didn’t say that at all or imply it . To answer your question on Maury : http://www.mauryshow.com and Mohamed was on 90 day fiancé too.
ALEKSANDRA: let me take a look…Okay, what’s the connection between me, Maury, and Mohamed??
COMMENTER: Aleksandra Iarovikova not really a connection between you guys what so ever there. I’m just saying don’t get drawn into reality shows like Maury per say and Im just implying what Mohamed thought of the situation that’s all. Since he’s a so called expert in relationships. Lol
ALEKSANDRA: ha, sorry, I have no idea what are these people doing. But be sure, I’m not into all of these things. And I hope you don’t believe to everything you see on TV?
COMMENTER: I don’t know who you are, but I know you are unhappy in USA. I also left my country five years ago and I want to go back. The only thing I want to said is don’t let this stupid people get in your nerves. And just embrace and Iove your daughter, but don’t ever lie to her because she’ll hate you in the future.
ALEKSANDRA: since when you decided I’m not Happy?
COMMENTER: Beautiful daughter and beautiful parents. Aleksandra, you and Josh are great parents. Don’t even respond to these people that are miserable in life.
ALEKSANDRA: I know right? That’s why they are here, pouring out their poison.
COMMENTER: Josh is straight??
ALEKSANDRA: More than.
COMMENTER: Biracial children are beautiful! Embrace it! Be honest! Maybe you and Josh weren’t together when she was concieved? The truth shall set you free! Admit the baby isn’t Josh’s and show her beautiful face on TV I can tell by her hair and skin tone that you are in denial???
ALEKSANDRA: I bet they are. Don’t you understand that because of people like you I don’t want to share our girl. I wanted at the beginning, but right after the moment when I had to go to ER, everyone started pushing me. So, here you go, don’t like saying that, but it’s your people fault.
COMMENTER: I just feel bad for you having to live a lie?
ALEKSANDRA: Wow so confident. I’ll let you entertain yourself with your imagination?
COMMENTER: I am a huge fan of the show and you guys are one of my favorite couples…no one is trying to degrade you…it is just obvious ?? prayers for you that one day you will be able to come clean.
ALEKSANDRA: I’m glad you like it, but follow your advice 🙂
COMMENTER: It’s called u be honest with yourself .. cause the world knows he is not the father . I have biracial kids and they are the most beautiful babies.. clearly u and Josh are white that princess u have ain’t white at all. U just need to admit it and so be it josh is not the father pretty sure deep down he knows he ain’t.
ALEKSANDRA: Emmm you repeat yourself.
COMMENTER: Maybe it’s hard for you since in Russia white women don’t have sex with black men and it is looked down upon. In america we know what biracial children look like and honestly it’s not that big of a deal what is a big deal is trying to tell people what they know is a lie. Not sure if it’s over money from the show or lie to your family or a lie to the church but that little girl is biracial and or maybe you are just lying to yourself and your husband is gay so it works for him also but we here in American have seen tons of biracial kids and lady you have one.
ALEKSANDRA: Haha in my hometown there are thousands of Africans. And the rest of your comment, find something new man.
COMMENTER: Omg y can’t u people leave Aleksandra and Josh alone? It’s not the world’s business about the DNA of their baby it’s their business and regardless what any of u think Josh is that baby girls Father. A father takes care of u, feeds and clothes u, loves u and protects u from idiotic comments that are all over Aleksandra fb. I pray that people can put as much effort into their own lives as they do meddling into someone else’s. Aleksandra u and Josh R great parents keep doing what ur doing.
ALEKSANDRA: Thanks Angela! Your comment made me think, what if we were not able to have kids or we adopted a baby, or I was raped…what I would do if I read all these comments in this kind of situation? I’d probably be dead by now. I’m happy God sees everything.
COMMENTER: You really don’t think this lie won’t follow this man in his professional life. Doctors are seen as people of truth who are to be trusted and this kills that trust.
COMMENTER: And why is any of this it business? They don’t know u they have no reason to confide in u or ne one else.
COMMENTER: Their family life has nothing to do with him being a good doctor. I’m sure Josh will be an v awesome physician.
COMMENTER: When they go on national television and say it’s their biological child and clearly it’s not. That means he is a idiot or she is a liar and both scenarios end up with the same conclusion if he is not bright enough to see who would ever trust the man enough to provide them heath care what if he couldn’t see the symptoms of cancer. Again things like this can follow people in very odd ways.
COMMENTER: I can almost predict the future here until this is dealt with it will be a albatross around the man’s neck that he will face over and over in his life and his professional career until it is faced.wrong or right it is what it is the public doesn’t like to be lied to as simple as that.and that is why this day like many others to.come this will happen over and over.
ALEKSANDRA: The thing is, it’s really not of your business man. I waste so much time on people like you saying the same thing over and over again. Lying is what you are doing to yourself considering that you are right. But man that will not help you in your life. If you don’t care about mine, then why are you still here arguing with me? No matter what I’ll do you will hate me and think that you are right. Which is obviously not true. We did this show to show our religion. Lying is against our religion. And I’m not even talking about adultery. What in the world are you talking about? My dream was to build a happy family. Ruin your happiness, not mine. You can say anything you want, but it will not make you right. As I said before, you have a right to not believe, but you will not change anything. What else are you trying to prove here??
#90DayFiance Season 3 couple Aleksandra & Josh Strobel announce she is currently pregnant with her 2nd child! (They were the Mormon couple – she was from Russia and he was from Idaho. They are currently living in Australia while Josh attends med school.) https://t.co/Zy8k2TeZmq
— Starcasm (@starcasm) December 28, 2018
COMMENTER: Angela, Since you like telling everyone to mind their business, why don’t you mind yours and quit inserting yourself in the conversation?
ALEKSANDRA: Emmm maybe because it’s my page? You are (And other people) the one who is trying to prove here something. I don’t go to your page and don’t say that you are lying, or your husband is blind, or whatever. Inserting? Didn’t even try.
COMMENTER: I was not talking to you. I was talking to Angela.
ALEKSANDRA: Still. Good advice for you.
COMMENTER: I’ll remember that if I ever think good advice could possibly come from you.
ALEKSANDRA: I certainly do.
COMMENTER: Your baby has a better chance of having a white daddy than you have a chance of giving good advice.
ALEKSANDRA: Oh believe me, my advice is better than you accepting the reality.
COMMENTER: You lost me at “believe me.”
ALEKSANDRA: Too bad for you that you can’t stay focused.
COMMENTER: …Or that it’s difficult to believe liars. Whichever makes more sense to you.
ALEKSANDRA: Great, then don’t believe yourself ☺
COMMENTER: I honestly can’t take you seriously. I almost wonder if you are playing into this for ratings. People have been watching your story with Josh. We watched you get married on TV. You and Josh announce your pregnancy on the reunion show. Now you guys show up with a black or biracial baby and hide the child’s face. So you expect everyone to sit back and not have any questions? Maybe you and Josh planned things this way and if so that’s fine. But as you two are telling your love story on national television and suddenly you have a baby that obviously isn’t Josh’s… it sort of looks like you had an affair. Or maybe you guys chose to adopt after a failed pregnancy, or you two chose to use a sperm donor… If the truth is too private then it’s time to turn off the cameras. Otherwise you are naturally going to have thousands of poeple scratching their heads wondering how you ended up with a biracial baby (who is beautiful btw). If you or others here don’t get that.. Sorry! We can’t just tune in each week and pretend not to notice. And I think everyone here, including you, gets that. That’s the only reason why any of us are here reading these threads on your Facebook page.
— Starcasm (@starcasm) July 6, 2017
COMMENTER: They are documenting their lives on TV and the world couldn’t help but notice the baby is obviously biracial. Hope that helps you understand why folks are curious.
ALEKSANDRA: First of all reality TV, which is less than half true. Second, your comment is not new, read them…few times.
COMMENTER: Reality tv may be only half true, but they certainly can’t edit it to make the child of two white parents look subsaharan African.
COMMENTER: I would have to figure out how to have an Asian baby with a white man to top what you did…. you win.
ALEKSANDRA: You sound so ethnocentric, shame.
(* Aleksandra didn’t delete the photo of her daughter Kaya above, so I left it unpixelated.)
For those curious, you can watch Josh and Aleksandra’s episode of 90 Day Fiance: What Now? by heading on over to TLC.