RETURN TO AMISH Jeremiah Raber arrested for domestic violence

Return To Amish Jeremiah Raber arrested for domestic violence in 2017

After marrying his wife Carmela and moving to Florida, it appeared that Return To Amish bad boy Jeremiah Raber had turned over a new leaf. But Jeremiah looks to be back to his old self, as he was arrested in Florida on Saturday and charged with domestic violence.

UPDATE – Read the police report from Jeremiah’s arrest here, which includes some startling accusations by Carmela.

UPDATE – Jeremiah issues a very formal apology for attacking Carmela.

The 37-year-old reality star was later released and he headed right to Facebook. “This time my demons have been woken up and they pronounced me the devil,” Jeremiah wrote yesterday. He then shared a lengthy post explaining that his troubles with Carmela were because he was looking for approval — from her and Facebook — and not love, because he’d never known what love was.

From Jeremiah:

This is going to hurt to talk about but I have to get it out there.

I was adopted at a very young age because my mother didn’t want me. I was adopted into a very abusive home. I never felt love growing up. I was told on a daily basis buy my amish mom that I will never get anywhere in life. I fought tooth and nails for everything I had. I tried on a daily basis to get the approval of my parents just to be let down because it never happened. I was hurt by it all the time. I’ve tried to commit suicide numerous times to get rid of the pain of the past. I then got married thinking that would make it better but that ended up in a divorce. That raised the pain level so much that I hated everyone around me. I went out and tried drinking the pain away almost every single day. That just caused more pain for me and got me into a lot of trouble. I then ended up moving in with people who became like parents to me even though I never truly opened up to them and allowed them to show me true love. I ended up talking to this girl who changed my mind and showed me what Love Actually was. I ended up getting married to her and she was and still is the love of my life. We have had so much hurt and struggles in our marriage because I myself growing up had never experienced what real love was and because of that even tho I was married I kept looking to people on my Facebook for approval of everything that I did. That has ruined my relationship and marriage with my true love. I know that the way I come off to my wife is not a loving way but all I want is her approval. After having it drilled in my head my entire life that i will never amount to anything in life I have overlooked the love and looked just for approval. I got married to Carmela because I do love her even when I got mad at her. Me wanting approval so bad has made me overlook the love. I wish I could take it all back but I can’t. I wish that I had the chance now to show her that I do need her love and not approval. I guess my mother was right. I’ll never amount to anything. I am nothing without the love of my life. I do love you Carmela.

In addition to the posts above, Jeremiah shared the music video for Ricky Young’s “Could You Love Me Again,” and a spoken word piece titled “I’m past saving.” He also posted a text graphic with the message “Someone who truly loves you, sees what a mess you can be, how moody you can get, and how hard you can be to handle, but still wants you.”

Meanwhile, Jeremiah’s wife Carmela Raber appears to have deleted her personal Facebook account. However, a post she reportedly wrote after Jeremiah’s arrest is currently circulating on fan pages, and it paints a pretty ugly picture of her life with him:

Carmela Raber Facebook post about Jeremiah's arrest and abuse in their relationship

Have you ever just wanted to cry.. I don’t even know what I’m doing I feel so unappreciated.. upon checking out my husbands post and seeing how low he can get is making me sick to my stomach. I cleaned this house top to bottom sold my car kit to have enough for a nice dinner for the kids to come to .. he asked me to stay up till 330 am and the only thing he says is gets angry cuz I did a pariscope then told me to go get the kids stuff out of the car.. don’t even mention anything about the clean house or anything nice. I spent every penny I have for this family and neglected myself to be able to get a car, property while my husband gets to spend his money on lottery tickets and his gambling and whatever his heart desires. I chouffer his ass around and use to jump to his whim as lately I’m not as nice as I use to be because I don’t even have the strength. I’m out of confidence, I feel alone, I’m tired.

I might not be the best cook but I try most people just grin and bare it out of respect and breaks my heart to see the food I tried so hard to fix get thrown away or thrown on the ground. I’m sick of called being a controlling c*nt b!tch just because I’m standing up for myself and refuse to let him take my car with no drivers license and kids as he has no respect for me or my belongings as I have nothing no shot he broke everything I own. So therefor I’m controlling sp!c and should have thought twice before marring me my question I have is why the f**k stay in a relationship your so unhappy with?,

Hell I can’t even take medicine my dr has prescribed me even if I got it despite being told I can’t take that kind of medicine by my husband I couldn’t even afford it.

This is a vent please no negative only words of encouragement.. I know what I need to do I just need to be empowered.

There aren’t many folks who know Jeremiah personally who have great things to say about him (including himself), but pretty much everyone who knows Carmela has stated that she is genuinely kind and good-hearted. I recently made a post about the new season of Return To Amish in which I expressed my surprise at how well their marriage seemed to be going before wishing them continued happiness together. It seems their happiness was just a show. We wish Carmela all the best and hope that her relationship with Jeremiah doesn’t completely ruin her future — financially, emotionally, and otherwise.

Meanwhile, viewers will get to see some of the couple’s relationship troubles play out on screen when Return To Amish returns this Sunday at 7/7c on TLC. Click here to watch the dramatic preview trailer.

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  • Raber, 37, threw hot coffee onto his wife’s lap during an argument.

    He also made several threats to harm the victim.

    victim showed deputies several large bruises on her legs and arms, the
    report states. Raber allegedly caused the bruises by striking the victim
    with a closed fist, according to the report.

  • Jesi Young

    Last season he was belittling her on their wedding day over the marriage license! She should’ve ran for the hills then! Such a sad situation all the way around. :/

  • Lynn

    RUNNNN GIRL RUN! Leave his No good ass! He’s Never going to change. He’s disgusting. Move on girl!

    • Mary Bailey Chapman

      He took advantage of her from the beginning.

  • Ginger Gonzalez

    Jeremiah has alot of issues, he upsets the whole show and its not fun to watch! He should be taken off the show until he gets some professional help!

  • Mimi

    I wish Jeremiah would focus only on his 3 little children in Ohio who adore and miss him. Especially the youngest little girl. Her heart was absolutely broken the last time I saw him say goodbye to them. That little girl’s pain at saying goodbye to her daddy haunts me. If he needs love and approval, he need look no further than his own children. I too was pretty messed up being raised in an Amish home where no love or approval was shown. I am now 65 years old and I’m pretty sure I know when I’m giving good advice.

    • Hyacinth

      That’s good advice. I respect the good Amish, but I’m glad when people move on from a bad situation.

    • Lizz Huie-Fulks

      I remember that episode. He acted like there was nothing he could do in order to be in his kids’ lives. Which is bull crap. If he really wanted to be in their lives he would be. I think he used that episode and his kids to make people feel sorry for him. It might be a good idea he is not in their lives.

    • Mary Bailey Chapman

      I have to agree with Lizz. Maybe those kids are better off without him. If he hits his wife, will he hit his kids too? I think those kids will grow up to be better adults not being around a father like him
      If he really cared about them he never would have walked out on them. He would have been the husband he should have been. And he at least could have been visiting them when he should have been.

  • balletlady

    she needs to get out of this marriage. He is an abusive person, and seemingly his abusive childhood created what he has become. He continually badgers everyone into an argument, picks on Rebecca constantly as well as other. Anyone he can get something from is what he is after.
    They put every cent into two pieces of property, one with a home on it, another was a 5 acre property with no home on it & HE wanted despite HER concerns about how soggy the soil was….she was right, as noted the land would create sinkholes and anything built there would disappear into a large hole.
    Now SHE will get blamed for HIS desire to move to Florida an purchase THAT particular piece of property.
    They should sue the Real Estate Company that sold them that property, as the realtor said “there’s your power line pole and your septic system”…WHO inspected that land before the sale?

    • Lizz Huie-Fulks

      I am kinda wondering about that land myself. I think the realtor knew it was bad property but didn’t want to admit it because she wanted the sale. If they sued there is a chance they could get all their money back.

      • balletlady

        Florida does have a lot of issues with sink holes. AND did I HEAR that “inspector” call the parcel of land a SWAMP?????? or am I incorrect?

  • Lizz Huie-Fulks

    I hope she finds the strength to move on. She has to think just such about herself but her kids. The environment the way she has described is not good for the kids. She should move on and not look back.

    • Mary Bailey Chapman

      I think she thinks she deserves a man like him. Like she isn’t good enough for anyone better. She needs some help to realize she is better then she thinks she is.

  • Lisa

    No respect for Jeremiah…….He’s had to many chances, his anger issues are out of control. Carmela needs to walk away from that violent hothead before he seriously hurts her.

  • David Deel

    I will never understand how Carmella stands for that low life piece of scum. It amazes me how incredibly stupid this guy is while trying so deperately to show how intelligent he is. The guy has three kids and spending all “his” money on two properties a thousand miles away from his kids. (No i really don’t know how far they are away.) I can tell you that for a time I was about 300 miles from my son and it felt like a universe of distance. Of course the ex-wife, who is a good woman, and I had a custody agreement. I spent all my allotted time with him until I eventually took custody. Why he isn’t spending time with his kids can only be attributed to one thing. He is selfish. His main purpose in life is to be happy and to hell with the ones he supposedly loves. Until he learns that he has responsibilites to others, (wife, kids, family) he will never be a decent human. And I don’t think it is possible he will ever learn that.

  • Elle

    Carmela, please please leave baby girl! You know what to do! You are a strong woman! I know you may not feel that way right now but you are! It takes a strong and powerful woman to walk away from a abusive relationship. Take care of your kids and yourself. Jeremiah is playing head games with you talking about his past of not being loved by his parents, being suicidal, etc. it’s a head game. Don’t buy into it. YOU AND YOUR KIDS ARE WORTH MORE!

  • Buzz Anderson

    He should be in jail. He’s an abuser who is just looking to beat up on someone to make himself feel better. Stupid excuses and apologies can never help because he is mentally deranged and should be taken off the street before he really kills some innocent lady and her kids for not making his dinner right. Complete idiot and psychopath.

  • Mary Bailey Chapman

    Jeremiah needs to stop blaming everything on others and his past. You determine your own destiny. You had a good woman. But you wouldn’t have known that if it slapped you in the face. I hate men like you. Always belittle everyone just to be in control and to feel better about yourself.
    I hope you rot in hll by yourself. You don’t deserve her. NEVER EVER hit a woman or a child. You should have appreciated what you had before it was gone.
    Word of advice to your wife. Don’t take him back or you will teach him it’s OK to hit you!!!

  • Robin Drake

    What is so sad is Carmela does not know what to do. if she did, she would have done it. Is it the TV show she doesn’t want to lose? It cannot be the support of a good husband, or the love of a good husband that keeps her there. She chooses her path, and this is what she chooses. No one can help her or advise her. She must take that step to be free from her prison. If she would stop talking about “The Cult”, and look around at the present, and forward to freedom her life would certainly change for the Better.

  • NakedTruthTN

    I would lay back and spread my legs for him in a heart beat!

  • Chloe Clothilde

    What would Jeremiah do if he was married to someone like me — who would knock his teeth out ?

  • Paul Black

    Sleeping every night with Carmela Raber would mean one eye on her and one on the window waiting for the ufo to arrive behind the comet.