Who is Danielle Staub’s second ex husband Tom Staub?

Real Housewives of New Jersey‘s Danielle Staub certainly lived many lives, including one marriage to a very wealthy man: Thomas N. Staub.

There haven’t been a lot of pictures or information about Thomas since his ex-wife blew up as one of the stars of the hit Bravo show, but he made an appearance on tonight’s episode at his oldest daughter Christine‘s birthday party.

Danielle creeped her daughters and the audience out when wore the engagement ring from Tom to Christine’s Sweet 16 Blowout Bash. When Tom showed up with his young wife, Danielle gushed and hugged him, thanking him again and again for coming and at times awkwardly held her hand up so everyone could see the ring. Awkward much?

Staub, CFO of his family successful family business (Pacemaker treadmill manufacturers Aerobics, Inc.), met Danielle when she was still stripping. In her book The Naked Truth, she depicts him as a business man with sandy hair and blue eyes who spent lots of money and time trying to get her attention. At first she wanted to keep things “just business,” but eventually broke down, married him, quit stripping (begrudgingly), and settled down to a life of opulence and child-rearing. In fact, having babies was something Tom was reportedly eager to do, she quotes him twice as saying “I can’t wait to get you pregnant.”

In her book, Danielle vaguely accuses him of cheating in between the births of their daughters Christine and Jillian, but says she ultimately ended the 12-year married because of “emotional distance.”

“From the outside it seemed as if we had everything. But on the inside, our relationship was hollow. It was no longer a marriage of love, and I wasn’t about to live a lie or stay in a marriage because a man was taking care of me and making things easy. Should I stay in a marriage because all of my bills were paid? . . . No, because that’s what a prostitute does.”

Interesting distinction. But, as stated above, Danielle has lived many, many lives.

On the show Danielle has often complained that her ex-husband wasn’t paying the many bills for her huge palatial home on time, or giving them money to eat on. Danielle is now making money through the Real Housewives franchise, her book, her song, and maybe other income streams and now lives in a condo with her girls. She is romantically linked to lesbian singer Lori Michaels.

54-year-old Tom has reportedly remarried to a woman named Rebecca and is expecting a son. His company, Aerobics, Inc., filed for bankruptcy this May.