Girls’ Jemima Kirke defends getting an abortion in college

Jemima Kirke Abortion

As a mother and stepmother of girls, Jemima Kirke said standing up for women’s reproductive rights is more important to her now than ever before.

“I’m already anticipating their issues with self-esteem, their issues with their body, the whole luggage that comes with being a woman,” the actress said in a video for the Center for Reproductive Rights. “I would love if when they’re older and they’re in their teens or in their 20s, that the political issues surrounding their body were not there anyone. That they have one less thing to battle around their bodies.”

That’s a subject Jemima has personal experience with because, as she explained in the video, she chose to get an abortion in 2007 when she was a college student.

“I became pregnant with my boyfriend at the time. I wasn’t sure that I wanted to be attached to this person for the rest of my life,” Jemima, now 29, said. “My life was just not conducive to raising a happy, healthy child. I just didn’t feel it was fair.”

As a poor college student, Jemima felt like she was in between a rock and hard place.

“I realized that if I didn’t take the anesthesia, I would be able to afford to do this,” she said. “The anesthesia was only, it wasn’t that much more, but when you’re scrounging for however many hundreds of dollars, it is a lot. I just didn’t have it. It’s these obstacles and it’s this stigma that makes these things not completely unavailable.”

For the Center for Reproductive Rights’ Draw the Line Campaign, Padma Lakshmi also opened up about having endometriosis, Meryl Streep encouraged people to sign the Bill of Reproductive Rights and Mark Ruffalo talked about his mother’s illegal abortion before Roe v. Wade was passed.


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  • Kail

    I am very much pro choice but I would hope woman are also educated on adoption. At the end of the day, you have more then just 2 choices.

    • kate

      I really doubt that there are people who know about abortion but have never heard of adoption.

      • Kail

        Just seems like she thought she had one of two options..maybe it’s how the article was written

  • TA

    i believe abortions should be legal, accessible and safe for cases like rape, incest, medical issues with mother and/or baby, etc.
    but having an abortion because you don’t want to be linked with the father of the baby for life is selfish. she said she couldn’t have provided a happy and healthy life for the child, but there’s are thousands of couples out there that can and are desperate for a child.

    • kate

      so why are you okay with it in the case of rape or incest? It makes sense to me to be either pro-life or pro-choice. I really don’t understand when pro-life people are okay with abortions in certain situations. I’m pro-choice.

    • twelfthnight

      And there’s hundreds of thousands of kids in the foster system, and many of them will stay there until they turn 18 and age out.

      Adoption is a pipe dream. It sounds all rosy and like it’s a sure thing, but it isn’t. There’s a high demand for babies, but unfortunately many kids age past the toddler stage and from then on it seems like their chances of getting adopted just go down. In the meantime they’re shuttled between foster homes and are often placed in unsavory company that hurt them or abuse them, and then they become ‘problem children’ and are even harder to adopt out.

      Plus, adoption is expensive and has a lot of hoops to jump through. A lot of the people ‘desperate’ for a child can’t meet the demands, and so they child just keeps circling the drain in the foster system.

      There is no guarantee that if she had given the child up for adoption it would have had a good life at all.

      • kate

        also, when it comes to adoption, the “desirable” options are HEALTHY white newborns. God forbid the baby has medical problems, it’s probably not going to be adopted. Also, as you said adoptions require time and money, which is why A TON of people adopt babies from outside the country (russia, asian countries, etc).

        I totally agree with your point that adoption is not some simple thing like there are hundreds of wonderful couples begging to adopt your baby as soon as you find out you’re pregnant. Pro-life people like to prentend that’s they way it is, but most pro-life people really don’t care about the quality of life for your child–they just want you to give birth to it. They don’t care about how that baby is going to be raised. A lot of pro-choice people think about that, though, and take it into account. Pro-life people should show that they care about taking care of the babies who are already here and not being taken care of.

        • TA

          If you’re referring to me as the “pro-life” people, I am not. I am pro-choice. I believe women should have the choice over their bodies. I was just stating my thoughts/opinions like others have.

          • SSSSS

            but you said this “i believe abortions should be legal, accessible and safe for cases like
            rape, incest, medical issues with mother and/or baby, etc.”

            and “but having an abortion because you don’t want to be linked with the father of the baby for life is selfish.”

            sorry to break it to you, but you are NOT pro-choice. you seem to be pro-judgement though. If you deem the reason necessary (incest, rape) then it’s okay for a woman to abort. That’s actually not how being pro-choice works.

            • TA

              you don’t know me, so don’t tell me what I am or am not.
              I have said I believe women should have the choice and control over their bodies, which is why abortion needs to always stay legal and safe and accessible. to “get rid of” a baby because you’re not sure you want to be linked to the father for life is selfish, in my opinion. I am allowed to have an opinion and also be pro-choice.

              • SSSSS

                you’re allowed to have an opinion, but your judgement about what is an acceptable reason to have an abortion is contrary to the whole concept of being PRO CHOICE. You’re judging women based on the reason for their abortion (“but having an abortion because you don’t want to be linked with the father of the baby for life is selfish”) but the whole point is that they don’t need to have a reason–it’s their choice!!!!

                When you write “i believe abortions should be legal, accessible and safe for cases like
                rape, incest, medical issues with mother and/or baby, etc.” you’re leaving out “cases where the woman does not want to have a baby.” The scenarios you specified where “I believe abortions should be legal” are the same ones that most pro-lifers are okay with. So if you don’t feel that way, and you’re pro choice, why did you say “”i believe abortions should be legal, accessible and safe for cases like rape, incest, medical issues with mother and/or baby, etc.””

                I am just going off of what YOU yourself wrote. Read what your wrote again. YOU are the one who is making yourself look pro life.

                So stop judging other women or their choices.;

                • TA

                  so it’s ok for you to judge me, a woman, for my opinions, beliefs and choices. but it’s not ok for me to pass judgement on another woman?
                  got it.

            • TA

              I also never said abortions are only acceptable in the above situations. I should have said “especially in cases of rape, incest…”
              my mistake and apologies.
              again. I stand by women making their own decisions with their own bodies. period.

      • TA

        I completely see and understand your point and agree with you that adoption isn’t all unicorns and rainbows and that many children slip through the cracks, even from birth. the foster system is flawed.
        abortion is only one of the options, and I hope she explored all of hers.
        but the bottom line is- it’s her body and it was her choice and I am in support of women having that choice.

    • spottedgiraffe

      Go get a kid from foster care if you’re “desperate” to love a child. Claiming it’s selfish for a woman to get an abortion is laughable considering it’s incredibly selfish to have kids in the first place. The world is already overpopulated. Being selfish or not isn’t the issue here.

      • TA

        Well. guess what? I am a foster parent. And I mentor young girls, some of whom have had abortions and some of whom have placed a child for adoption and some of whom have chosen to parent their child(ren). I see the reality every day. and I treat them all the same- with love and respect and talk with them about their options and support them no matter what decision they make.
        call me desperate all you want, there are so many kids that need love and attention and I am doing all I can to make a difference.
        what are you doing to help?

        • spottedgiraffe

          I wasn’t talking to you specifically I was directing the comment at every person that claims they are desperate for a child, but refuse foster care as an option. I’m not doing anything to help since I’m too young to be a foster parent.

    • erb123

      i dont think people who say things like ‘abortions should be legal in the case of rape and incest!’ even think about what they are saying. how would that even work?? would you require a police report? what about the millions of women that dont report their rapes? and what would you do about the number of women falsely claiming rape bc they are so desperate for a safe abortion?

      newsflash- limiting access to abortion only kills women that seek out back alley doctors. “only for rape” ISNT A REAL THING THAT COULD EVER WORK

  • awoman

    100% pro-choice.

  • Miranda

    Just….no. If you don’t want a child give it up for adoption. Give that gift to someone else who will love and cherish it. Why is adoption no longer the main alternative?

    • kate

      You should go to your nearest foster care and take in 12 kids then.

    • DeeDeDee

      It’s no longer the main alternative because of baby selling and the amount of kids already in the system. It’s also no longer the main alternative because women Have access to safe and legal abortions.

    • Guest

      Just… no to your comment. You can b1tch and moan about adoption when all of those people who will apparently “love and cherish” it once they adopt all of the current children in the foster care system, who have not been adopted because they are no a perfect, white newborn baby.

      • spottedgiraffe

        Thank you guest

    • twelfthnight

      Would you like to be forced to carry and birth a baby that you do not want? Women are not incubators. They do not HAVE to have a baby just because someone else may want one.

      • cookie

        You summed it all up perfectly, “Women are not incubators. They do not HAVE to have a baby just because someone else may want one.” Completely agree with you!

      • Guest

        Amen!

    • spottedgiraffe

      You don’t have to give someone a gift if you don’t want to. Nobody is obligated to give a child up for adoption. Why is someone’s desire for a child more important than bodily autonomy? If someone does not want to go through pregnancy and the pain of child birth then they shouldn’t.

  • frontdoormom

    Am I the only one who is confused on the anesthesia?

    • Guest

      I think she meant that she had to have a medical abortion instead of the surgical procedure.

    • DeeDeDee

      A friend of mine had one and had a choice between being put “under” or just being numbed down there. It was like $150-$200 cheaper to just be numbed. She had the money to choose anesthesia. Maybe that’s what she means?

  • #ProChoice

    Her body, her choice!

  • Prolife

    If you don’t want a baby it’s somple , don’t have sex! What about the innocent life ? No one gives a second thought about the baby they just killed. Also, many women have issues dealing with the emotional side of an abortion for years later . How could someone do easily kill a BABY! Fingers, toes, a heart beat ! Heck , this country allows abortions into 24 weeks! That baby could live with medical help outside the womb. That baby weighs over a pound , has all organs and eyes, teeth buds, nails … That’s a child. I could see my baby kicking and moving inside me at 20 weeks. I can’t even wrap my head around ending that miracles life. Thankfully, those babies are with their gravely fathers for eternity . Honestly, if your first choice is going to be abortion if YOU mess up then please just don’t have sex. It’s YOUR body and YOURE making the decision to have sex which can result in pregnancy ( even when on BC) so how about we let that baby make its own decision with its body. Also, to everyone talking about foster system, you know jack who about it. Many people try to raise or care for children but often their biological parents even though unfit don’t relinquish custody and continue to fight after they have been given to the state. People can adopt or try but biological parents can and do get those babies back. It’s heart breaking and painful to be raising a baby / child that can be taken from you. Also the state is always around so you never feel as if they are your children. It’s not so cut and dry .

    • Prochoice

      “How about we let that baby make its own decision with its body”. Are you for real? The fetus is inside the woman’s womb. Therefore, it’s her body and her choice!

    • spottedgiraffe

      “so how about we let that baby make its own decision with its body”

      Lol a fetus is incapable of making decisions. It can makes its own decisions once its life isn’t solely independent on another individual. And nice try with your 24 week abortion propaganda. The cut off for an abortion is 12 weeks. You can only get a 24 week one if the pregnancy is a threat to the mother, the fetus has already died, or it is severely deformed.

    • Guest

      Your comment is ignorant. There are no babies in abortion. Babies are born. A fetus is not.

    • SSSSS

      do you believe a 13 year old who was raped should have to go through pregnancy and give birth?

    • Cannot

      i am not one to comment, but you seriously need to take a step back and think about all of the generalizations you are making before you post such aggressive things in a public forum. you contradict yourself within your first sentences ” No one gives a second thought about the baby they just killed. Also, many women have issues dealing with the emotional side of an abortion for years later” – who are you to tell anyone what they think about or do not?

      Take your own advice – it’s not so cut and dry.

  • spottedgiraffe

    Why did Jemima Kirke have an abortion? Because she wanted to. What a stupid tag line starcasm. Btw Jemima has to be the most unattractive name I’ve ever heard in my life.

  • Gæst

    I love that her and Domino speak so openly about it. Abortion is every woman’s right.

  • rhobee

    Adoption is definitely not all rainbows and unicorns. Look at the problems Catelynn and Tyler are having with their “open” adoption. Many birth mothers have vastly different ideas than their adoptive parents.